The Sandwich Generation – Caught in the Middle

sandwich-generation-cartoonThe sandwich generation consists of middle-aged individuals who are pressured to support both aging parents and growing children. With the obligation to care for their aging parents – who may be ill, unable to perform activities of daily living or in need of financial support – and children, who require financial, physical and emotional support. The trends of increasing life spans and having children at an older age have contributed to the sandwich generation phenomenon.

The whole family feels stress and pressure that is put upon them to do everything for everyone. They feel guilty and overwhelmed most of the time. They suffer from exhaustion and get sick more frequently than non-caregivers. A new role on the stage of life for which no one can ever rehearse. This presents extraordinary challenges to a parent or an aging parent.

To lose control of one’s life – even the little things – can be shocking and frustrating.

As more baby boomers become both sandwich generationers and seniors, the need to understand aging dynamics and family relationships increases dramatically.

sandwich-generation-minipicFor one thing, improvements in medical science have increased life expectancy. People are living longer and requiring care for longer periods of time. The length of time people can live with a debilitating illness before death has increased. The average life expectancy in Canada is 82 years old. Only 50 years ago it was 69. Everyone is going to be involved some way, somehow in elder care. If not today, then tomorrow.

So with all this being said, in order to help either generation you have to meet your own needs first. Learn to integrate simple self-care tips into your daily routine. Avoid the burnout by prioritizing your own physical and mental health. Find an outlet for yourself. Whether it is joining a gym, going for walks three times a day, private time with your spouse or spending time with your friends. Don’t feel guilty if you have to take a few hours to give yourself the emotional distance you need to see your roles in a clearer perspective. A healthy caregiver provides a higher level of emotional and physical care to their loved one and this gift keeps on giving.

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